People used to be reluctant to admit that they used computer dating services, there was a certain stigma attached to the whole process. Not anymore. Today more and more busy people are finding that using the internet to help them find love is just a smart thing to do.
It's not just that we are too busy to find love on our own, we just are more comfortable with doing all kinds of things online. We know that the old methods of meeting someone special were hit and miss at best.
With all the online social networks and places to connect with people that share your interests, it just makes sense to put that same technology to use for finding someone to date, or possibly even marry.
There are a lot of computer dating services online, and some are better than others. They are also not all focused on the same thing. Some are purely focused on helping those that are looking for a serious relationship. Others are focused on helping those that are only looking for something casual.
Whatever you are looking for: serious, casual, or even just a friend, there are sites online that will help you find that special someone.
Many sites will even allow you to sign up for free and look around a little bit. If you are interested in meeting someone close to you, this is a great way to go. You can see how many people there are in your area before you actually pay to join.
These sites will require you to upgrade to a paid membership to utilize all the features of the site. In many cases you can look but you can't communicate with anyone else on the site until you upgrade to a paid membership.
Also, some sites pride themselves on their 'scientific' matching techniques while others allow you to pick and choose and talk to anyone who you think looks interesting and find out for yourself if the two of you have a connection.
It's up to you to decide which method makes you the most comfortable. Another very important aspect of your online dating is to fill out an interesting profile. This is the first 'meeting' someone will have with you. The more you let them know about the type of person you are and what you are looking for, the better chance you'll have of connecting with someone with similar interests.
One word of caution though, while you want to give a complete profile that doesn't mean that you have to include such personal information as where you work, your full name or real name and certainly not where you live. Tell them about who you are without letting them know too much.
Meeting someone online can make it really easy to get to know each other. It usually starts as exchanging emails, which takes a lot of the pressure off since you have time to think of what to say and don't have to worry about being tongue tied.
You can also use web cams to chat as you get more comfortable with each other. By the time the two of you actually meet, you should already have a lot of chemistry and even a little bit of 'history' which is what makes
computer dating services so great.Craet the mood!
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Dealing With A Break Up Is Never Easy
There isn't anything even remotely enjoyable about going through a break up. Even if the two of you agreed it was the best thing for now, there are still all kinds of negative things that come up. At the very least, you will be going through a change and will have to readjust to living life differently--and that's if it was a good break up. The bad ones are, well, just bad. You may feel hurt, angry, sad, guilty and confused. Regardless of what led to you splitting up, it's important that you deal with it so you can return to some sense of normalcy.
Accept that it's going to take some time to sort things out. The more time you take, the better it will be. Yet, you don't want to drag this process out forever. So, you need to buckle down and start working through this. Give yourself some time to be alone, and have no contact with your ex. You both need time and space to come to terms with what has happened. It will be much less complicated if the two of you aren't pestering each other.
If you are feeling sad or depressed then you should get some help. This can be as simple as talking to a trusted friend or family member. You may want to seek counseling if it's a more serious case of depression. Just be sure to take it seriously as being depressed about the break will start to cause problems in other areas of your life. So, make defeating sadness your first priority.
Once you're feeling better (and only when you're feeling better), you have to make a choice. You have to decide whether you want to try to get your ex back, or if you just want to move on. Moving on may be the easier choice, but make sure that's what you really want to do. There are few things worse than living the rest of your life wondering about "what might have been". So, if you even have a hint of thought that you may want to try working things out with your ex, then it's a good idea to go for it.
Did you know that the vast majority of relationships can be saved? It's true, but there is a catch. You have to follow a plan that works, and you need to be willing to do whatever it takes. You should have already cut off any contact with your ex, so that step is out of the way, but there's more.
The next thing to do is get to the root of the problems that led to the break up. This step is usually more tricky than people expect. That's because they are very good at seeing the problems that are on the surface, but that's not quite good enough. If you don't get to the root of the problem, you won't be able to fix it...and that could lead to the two of you breaking up a second time. So, give it some thought. The, when you know the real problem, you can start coming up with solutions.
Accept that it's going to take some time to sort things out. The more time you take, the better it will be. Yet, you don't want to drag this process out forever. So, you need to buckle down and start working through this. Give yourself some time to be alone, and have no contact with your ex. You both need time and space to come to terms with what has happened. It will be much less complicated if the two of you aren't pestering each other.
If you are feeling sad or depressed then you should get some help. This can be as simple as talking to a trusted friend or family member. You may want to seek counseling if it's a more serious case of depression. Just be sure to take it seriously as being depressed about the break will start to cause problems in other areas of your life. So, make defeating sadness your first priority.
Once you're feeling better (and only when you're feeling better), you have to make a choice. You have to decide whether you want to try to get your ex back, or if you just want to move on. Moving on may be the easier choice, but make sure that's what you really want to do. There are few things worse than living the rest of your life wondering about "what might have been". So, if you even have a hint of thought that you may want to try working things out with your ex, then it's a good idea to go for it.
Did you know that the vast majority of relationships can be saved? It's true, but there is a catch. You have to follow a plan that works, and you need to be willing to do whatever it takes. You should have already cut off any contact with your ex, so that step is out of the way, but there's more.
The next thing to do is get to the root of the problems that led to the break up. This step is usually more tricky than people expect. That's because they are very good at seeing the problems that are on the surface, but that's not quite good enough. If you don't get to the root of the problem, you won't be able to fix it...and that could lead to the two of you breaking up a second time. So, give it some thought. The, when you know the real problem, you can start coming up with solutions.
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
How to Become A Challenge For Your Girlfriend
If you think your relationship is becoming stale and your girlfriend is getting bored with you then why not become a bit of a challenge for your girlfriend. Everyone likes a challenge so if you make some changes to make it a little more challenging you can bring the spark back into your relationship. If you give in to your girlfriends every need and are always at her beck and call then she may take it for granted and subconsciously even think you are a little weak. If you become a little less accommodating to her needs she may actually have more respect for you.
One good way to bring the spark back into the relationship is to try and act like the man you were at the start of the relationship. When relationships first start they are usually quite romantic and you probably gave her flowers and gifts or even write her little notes. These things happen less and less often as the relationship moves on and before you know it you never bring her flowers or gifts or write her notes. When a relationship reaches this stage you begin to take things for granted rather than seeing them as special.
If you take a look at your relationship and realize that this is what has happened then you should take steps to rectify this. Start looking at your girlfriend the way you did at the beginning and start treating her like she is really special. If you begin doing these little special things like sending her flowers she will remember the guy that she fell in love with. This can bring back the spark in the relationship and you won't need to worry about trying to be a challenge for your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend seems to be drifting away, instinctively you may start to pull back too and then you both begin to drift apart. If this continues the relationship will fall into a downward spiral that will end badly. If she is drifting away then she is probably not happy and if you pull back that only makes her unhappier. Instead of pulling back, try to woo her again like you did when you first met her. She fell in love with you once and more than likely she wants that man back that she fell in love with.
To improve your relationship and get past this rut you need to go back to the guy you were at the beginning. The other thing you do need to consider is whether the relationship is going stale because you don't do these simple things anymore or it is because you are smothering here and being too possessive. Over possessiveness is another big cause of relationship failure. When you really care about someone all you want to do is be with them but sometimes it can become too much. If you want to be with her so much that you don't let her go out with her friends or family and you need to know her every move then this can put a big strain on the relationship. If this is the case then you need to back off a little and give her some breathing room.
It can be a little scary and even depressing when the person you love starts to drift away. Don't wait until it's too late before you decide to do anything about it. As soon as you think there may be a problem in your relationship then you need to make some changes to resolve it and make the relationship strong again.
One good way to bring the spark back into the relationship is to try and act like the man you were at the start of the relationship. When relationships first start they are usually quite romantic and you probably gave her flowers and gifts or even write her little notes. These things happen less and less often as the relationship moves on and before you know it you never bring her flowers or gifts or write her notes. When a relationship reaches this stage you begin to take things for granted rather than seeing them as special.
If you take a look at your relationship and realize that this is what has happened then you should take steps to rectify this. Start looking at your girlfriend the way you did at the beginning and start treating her like she is really special. If you begin doing these little special things like sending her flowers she will remember the guy that she fell in love with. This can bring back the spark in the relationship and you won't need to worry about trying to be a challenge for your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend seems to be drifting away, instinctively you may start to pull back too and then you both begin to drift apart. If this continues the relationship will fall into a downward spiral that will end badly. If she is drifting away then she is probably not happy and if you pull back that only makes her unhappier. Instead of pulling back, try to woo her again like you did when you first met her. She fell in love with you once and more than likely she wants that man back that she fell in love with.
To improve your relationship and get past this rut you need to go back to the guy you were at the beginning. The other thing you do need to consider is whether the relationship is going stale because you don't do these simple things anymore or it is because you are smothering here and being too possessive. Over possessiveness is another big cause of relationship failure. When you really care about someone all you want to do is be with them but sometimes it can become too much. If you want to be with her so much that you don't let her go out with her friends or family and you need to know her every move then this can put a big strain on the relationship. If this is the case then you need to back off a little and give her some breathing room.
It can be a little scary and even depressing when the person you love starts to drift away. Don't wait until it's too late before you decide to do anything about it. As soon as you think there may be a problem in your relationship then you need to make some changes to resolve it and make the relationship strong again.
Monday, May 13, 2013
Advice For Average Guys Dating Beautiful Women
Have you asked a beautiful woman out on a date and are still in shock that she accepted? Men often put beautiful women on a pedestal which can make it a challenge for an 'average' guy to date one.
Dating beautiful women can really boost the ego of a man. He will be beaming with pride when he walks down the street with this beautiful woman by his side. Not only does he get an ego boost but he will also look pretty impressive to other guys. Dating a beautiful woman will also make the guy more desirable to other women.
An attractive woman can probably date any man she likes, even rich, powerful men. Because they are so appealing to men for their beauty they often develop some back habits that may make them less desirable as a long term partner. Many beautiful women are vain, manipulative and high maintenance.
If you aren't very wealthy and you are fairly average looking then it can be very challenging to date a beautiful woman. Here is some advice for dating beautiful women.
1. Stand out from the crowd. Beautiful women have men fawning over them all the time and they probably all look the same to her, so to get her attention you need to be different from the rest.
2. Don't treat her like a goddess - every other man is doing this so this is just average to her. You can differentiate yourself by not treating her like she is a goddess but act indifferently to her as though you aren't even attracted to her looks. It is the guys that appear not to be interested that she will want - this goes along the lines of people always wanting what they can't have. By ignoring her you are giving her a challenge that she will respond to.
3. Pay more attention to her 'plain Jane' friend. A beautiful woman won't understand why you would prefer her plain friend over her and she will get quite jealous. She won't want her friend getting all the attention and she will begin to flirt with you to win over your attention.
4. Instead of giving her compliments, tease her. Most other men will shower her with compliments, which she probably expects and is probably quite mundane to her now. If you light-heartedly tease her about any flaws then this is a different approach from what she is use to and she will respond well to that.
5. Don't just look at her outer beauty but also focus on her inner beauty. Don't spend all night staring at her like she is a goddess but instead show that you are interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about her life, her interests and hobbies. She will respond well to a man that she knows is interested in her as a person and not just for her beauty.
6. Don't call her too soon. Most men will probably call her the next day and she may even expect that. Wait a couple of days before calling her and she will respect you for it because you have impressed her so far with the above tips and now you are showing her even more that you are not desperate and just after her for her beauty.
7. Don't try to get her into bed on the first date. Of course you are sexually attracted to her and most likely all men she dates try to get her into bed straight away. By playing a little hard to get will spike her interest in you and also reinforce the fact that you like her as a person and not just a sex object.
You should remember that beauty is only skin deep and although it is great to date beautiful women, ultimately you also want a woman who is beautiful on the inside too. Take the time to get to know this woman and you may have found yourself a beautiful woman inside and out.
Dating beautiful women can really boost the ego of a man. He will be beaming with pride when he walks down the street with this beautiful woman by his side. Not only does he get an ego boost but he will also look pretty impressive to other guys. Dating a beautiful woman will also make the guy more desirable to other women.
An attractive woman can probably date any man she likes, even rich, powerful men. Because they are so appealing to men for their beauty they often develop some back habits that may make them less desirable as a long term partner. Many beautiful women are vain, manipulative and high maintenance.
If you aren't very wealthy and you are fairly average looking then it can be very challenging to date a beautiful woman. Here is some advice for dating beautiful women.
1. Stand out from the crowd. Beautiful women have men fawning over them all the time and they probably all look the same to her, so to get her attention you need to be different from the rest.
2. Don't treat her like a goddess - every other man is doing this so this is just average to her. You can differentiate yourself by not treating her like she is a goddess but act indifferently to her as though you aren't even attracted to her looks. It is the guys that appear not to be interested that she will want - this goes along the lines of people always wanting what they can't have. By ignoring her you are giving her a challenge that she will respond to.
3. Pay more attention to her 'plain Jane' friend. A beautiful woman won't understand why you would prefer her plain friend over her and she will get quite jealous. She won't want her friend getting all the attention and she will begin to flirt with you to win over your attention.
4. Instead of giving her compliments, tease her. Most other men will shower her with compliments, which she probably expects and is probably quite mundane to her now. If you light-heartedly tease her about any flaws then this is a different approach from what she is use to and she will respond well to that.
5. Don't just look at her outer beauty but also focus on her inner beauty. Don't spend all night staring at her like she is a goddess but instead show that you are interested in her as a person. Ask her questions about her life, her interests and hobbies. She will respond well to a man that she knows is interested in her as a person and not just for her beauty.
6. Don't call her too soon. Most men will probably call her the next day and she may even expect that. Wait a couple of days before calling her and she will respect you for it because you have impressed her so far with the above tips and now you are showing her even more that you are not desperate and just after her for her beauty.
7. Don't try to get her into bed on the first date. Of course you are sexually attracted to her and most likely all men she dates try to get her into bed straight away. By playing a little hard to get will spike her interest in you and also reinforce the fact that you like her as a person and not just a sex object.
You should remember that beauty is only skin deep and although it is great to date beautiful women, ultimately you also want a woman who is beautiful on the inside too. Take the time to get to know this woman and you may have found yourself a beautiful woman inside and out.
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